At the beginning of a class in college, a professor asked about a missing student. He was told that the absent student’s mother had just died. When the professor asked for a show of hands of those who had lost a parent, several hands went up. “You students please write notes of comfort,” the professor said. “You know what it’s all about.” Loss must be experienced in order to be shared, and it must be shared in order to be healed.

A little boy made a special Christmas ornament for his parents. On the way out of school with his gift, he dropped it and it shattered on the pavement. He immediately screamed with grief at his loss. His father rushed to his side and said, “Hush, Son, be quiet. It’s all right. It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter.” But his mother, more acquainted with such deep moments, took the sobbing boy in her arms and said, “Oh, it does matter, it matters a great deal.” And she wept for her son’s loss, adding her tears to his.

Grief is a profound part of recovery and new life. Tears of regret, remorse and despair water the roots of love and of life itself. To deny and avoid the hurt and pain of life’s losses is to negate life’s importance. To fail to cry is to fail to live.

Prayer: Jesus, as you grieved over your friend Lazarus, allow my tears of grief to flow as well – for my own losses and those of others.

-A.Philip Parham- excerpt taken from John 11:32-36  NIV Recovery Devotional Bible